Sexual wellness has come a long way in the last few decades, yet for a long time, the sex toy industry failed to consider the diverse needs of trans and nonbinary individuals. For trans men in particular, options that supported their unique experiences — physically and emotionally — were scarce, often leaving them to repurpose toys designed for cisgender bodies. Fortunately, that narrative is changing.
A Brief History: The Gap in Trans-Inclusive Pleasure Products
Historically, sex toys were designed with rigid gender norms in mind: pink vibrators for “her,” bulky strokers for “him.” The binary model excluded those whose experiences didn’t fit neatly into either category, leaving trans and non-binary individuals to improvise or go without. Products labelled “unisex” rarely acknowledge the anatomical and psychological nuances of trans bodies. For trans men, especially those on testosterone or who had undergone gender-affirming surgeries, the lack of suitable options could be both frustrating and dysphoric.
It wasn’t until the mid-2010s that companies like Tantus, New York Toy Collective and GenderX began intentionally designing toys for trans bodies, consulting with the community and prioritising comfort, affirmation and agency. Today, we’re seeing a growing movement toward inclusive pleasure products. We hope you’ll take a look at our Transmasculine Selection, and below is our top 5 toys for trans folks.
Top 5 Gender-Affirming Sex Toys
Here are five toys that are well-loved in the FTM community and across the spectrum of gender identities, known for their comfort, functionality and affirming design. Because everyone deserves to feel pleasure!
1. CalExotics Trans Masc Stroker
This soft, body-safe silicone stroker was designed specifically for trans men who are on testosterone and experience bottom growth. Its open-ended, flexible design fits a variety of anatomies and offers gentle, stimulating suction during use. It’s one of the few strokers that doesn’t assume a cis male anatomy.
2. Suction or Vibration Toys like Satisfyer Love Breeze and Pro Penguin
This type of toy focuses on external stimulation and is great for users with a sensitive growth area, but the width of the rim needs to be larger than most suction toys. The combination of suction and vibration can mimic oral stimulation and works well for many genders, even if they are often marketed at “women”. We think Love Breeze is a silly name, and the Pro Penguin is a bit quirky, but we think you will like them both!
3. Boxer Brief Harness
While not a toy itself, a harness is a prized tool in the bedroom for non-heterosexual couples of all genders. This boxer brief harness by CalExotics is comfy and secures your toys for easy use. But if you don’t like the boxer brief style, we have several harness styles at different price points to choose from.
4. Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential
Though not explicitly marketed to trans men, this hands-free, oscillating toy can be very effective on sensitive post-T anatomy or for people who have had phalloplasty. The flexibility in how it’s used makes it accessible to a range of bodies.
5. Packing Penis
Also, not a toy, but packers are important for trans men, as it allows them to feel supported in their everyday gender presentation. Many find having a packer that looks and feels like a penis to be psychologically empowering and affirming. We have many sizes to choose from in our Transmasculine Selection.
Why Inclusive Pleasure Products Matter
Sexual health is mental health. Having access to toys that are not only physically compatible but also affirming of one’s gender identity can profoundly impact self-esteem, body acceptance and emotional wellbeing. When trans, gender non-conforming and intersex people can explore pleasure in ways that feel safe and validating, it supports a deeper connection to their bodies and partners.
Moreover, inclusivity in the sex toy world sends a broader message: that all bodies are worthy of pleasure. It challenges outdated norms, invites diversity into mainstream sexual conversations, and helps dismantle shame around trans sexuality. Brands that consult with the trans community, feature diverse models, and use affirming language in product descriptions are setting a much-needed standard for the future.
Final Thoughts
The sex toy industry still has a long way to go in terms of accessibility and diversity, but progress is happening. For non-cis folks, having options tailored to their needs is not just about physical stimulation; it’s about being seen, heard and valued.
Whether you’re looking to explore your body solo, share pleasure with a partner or simply find tools that affirm your identity, there are now more inclusive, affirming options than ever before.
Manifique is offering a special-priced bundle for our trans friends as well as anyone who will enjoy it (it’s great for our lesbian/sapphic friends, too). Get these three products together at a price you can’t resist. Happy Pride!
